Letting Go.

Letting Go : something I have adopted as a skill into my life. Not only for those who were qualifiers in my life… but anyone I am close to and anyone I cross paths with. I see it as honoring a persons own autonomy (that they have the right to choice and to lead their life how they choose) and their agency (capacity to act).

I have learned how important it is to give our peers the dignity, by honoring their autonomy and capacity- and that if there is something else they need beyond their own decision making process and action- that is for them to learn through their experiences- consequences of good. & challenging qualities- it is NOT FOR ME TO TEACH THEM OR LEAD THEM. If asked for my knowledge or wisdom (which I know is not the end all be all knowing of any matter) then I will carefully and mindfully share what I have to give- trusting them to do with it as they wish- because I am not them, I am not living their lives, and my life & circumstances are different from theirs; I could never possibly know- even if another wanted me to- the entire depth of their story on multiple experiential levels that they have had.

So I trust that those around me are doing the best they can with what they have and if they need to reroute- their will be the natural consequences that lead them to make the best decision for themselves. I also trust that I am making great strides in my own life- with all the knowledge and wisdom of my own inner experience to my best abilities. That the decisions I make or don’t make are the best for me based on a very deep and complicated web of understanding myself, my history and my circumstances- that deserves no explanation or defense.

I continue to meet you where you are at - accepting you and appreciating you just the way you are- and I expect that even if you don’t like it or understand completely- that you will also accept me in all that I am in this moment without trying to change me, control me, or teach me- because you are not me- and you could not possibly know what I need. Let’s all extend a bit of acceptance and unconditional regard to one another as best we can.